Here I sit brokenhearted
So alone since we parted
I didn't know
I had done you wrong
I didn't know
I had done you dirt
We once were friends
And now you're hurt
How could I know
That you would make me go
You cause such woe
An ex-friend posted
And I read
I didn't comment
I said nothing instead
And now I learn
Our friendship is dead
Oh so sad
Oh so blue
I was silently unfriended
My life upended
By facebook and you
I wrote this poem because of all the posts I see that ask me to copy and post something or copy, post and comment on something to prove that I read that person's posts. I haven't done the copy and post or comment thing and I don't think I will. I believe that when you share on facebook you are operating on trust. You trust that the people you have connected with or facebook friend-ed or whatever it's called are reading your posts. The people who know me know that I tend not to speak very much when we are together and that I enjoy listening to what they are saying. I am the same way on facebook.
Hello Friday! It’s been a good week. Business has been good and I’ve spoken to some really nice people across Canada. I’ve learned some things and tried some new things. Today’s topics are a rant against “Social Media Advertising”, getting started and being thankful.
Social Media Advertising
I like social media. I hate social media advertising based on an analysis of where I go and what I read when I’m searching the internet. I work from home and have to research a number of different companies every day. It has gotten to the point where I clear the cache on my computer and delete cookies every few days. I’ll probably have to do it every time I’m on the internet.
You are driving me crazy and away… please take note of the following comments, think about what you are doing, think about the number of people who are leaving because of the way you are micro-managing what they see and do.
I am more than data
I am more than pixels and posts
I am more than search engine flags
I am more than a cookie
I am more than a target market
I am a person
I am a living human being
I have a story
I have many interests
I am not suggested posts
I am not interested in what you want me to read
I am not interested in what you want me to watch
I am not interested in the stories you want me to follow
I choose what I watch… not you
I choose what I read… not you
I choose my friends… not you
Please let me choose these things myself. Your interference really bugs me.
Almost an ex-Facebook user,
Have you ever noticed that getting started on something is actually harder than doing it?
I have to make a lot of phone calls every day. Making the calls isn’t hard… getting started is. I put it off until it seems like I’ll never make the calls I need to every day. Then I start dialling and bang… the day disappears.
I find it’s the same way with yard work. Once I’m doing it I enjoy it and hours can pass quickly but… pulling the first weed or trimming the first bush or starting the long mower is more work than the work itself.
Writing this blog every week is probably the easiest thing for me to get started. I usually start it after I finish posting the last one. The topics and thoughts change quite a bit from the first few lines.
What do you do helps you get started on something right away?
An Attitude of Gratitude
What are you grateful for?
Every day I find something new to be grateful for as well as being grateful for the things and people I’ve already expressed gratitude to. Some of the things that have come to mind this week are;
I am grateful that I work from home because I hate commuting to work.
I am thankful for my health because I know so many people with major illnesses.
I am thankful for the beautiful weather because I’ve been through some storms.
I am thankful (as much as it is ticking me off) for Facebook because of all the good things people share.
I am thankful for the house live in because it keeps me warm, dry and safe.
I am thankful for the great jeans I can get at Mark’s Work Wearhouse, they last long and are comfortable.
Hey, fellow salesperson, how do you thank your customers and clients or do you? I never meet my clients. We do business over the phone and by email. I thank every one of them when we speak and follow it with an email. Once they pay for their order I send them a thank you card and a dozen cookies. I get a number of calls and email thanks when they get the card and cookies. The reason I send the card and cookies is because I am grateful for the business they send me and because I have an attitude of gratitude. If you want to see how easy and affordable sending cards and gifts to clients is then check out www.sendoutcards.com/danwrites (Yes this is another shameless business plug) Here is a link to an article about some real estate agents who use this system to thank clients, referral sources and to stay in touch with people. http://realtormag.realtor.org/product-guide/marketing/article/2014/01/case-study-custom-greeting-cards
And in closing…
“Some people are always grumbling because roses have thorns; I am thankful that thorns have roses.” Alphonse Karr
“When you rise in the morning, give thanks for the light, for your life, for your strength. Give thanks for your food and for the joy of living. If you see no reason to give thanks, the fault lies in yourself.” Tecumseh
“One can pay back the loan of gold, but one dies forever in debt to those who are kind.” Malayan Proverb
“Got no checkbooks, got no banks. Still I'd like to express my thanks - I've got the sun in the mornin' and the moon at night." Irving Berlin
Thank you for taking the time to read this. I hope you enjoyed reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it. Take a little time to think about the things you are grateful for, say thank you to someone, go out of your comfort zone and take a very serious look at www.sendoutcards.com/danwrites, it won’t hurt and it could help.
As always… Yahoo! It’s Friday.
Today’s musing is about Social Media, and how it may be affecting our lives.
I’ve been thinking about at all the different social media platforms. I get overwhelmed by the number of messages people send, post, share or whatever. It gets worse when the replies or comments start flowing in. Now add the targeted advertising that happens on social media platforms.
I look at the connections I have on Linked In, Facebook and Twitter. I wonder how many of them are real. If we weren’t connected on a social media platform would we be connected at all? Would we even know each other? Would we communicate?
Through social media I’ve been connected with family members I never knew and still haven’t met and reconnected with other family members whom I haven’t heard from in years. I’ve learned a lot about them even though I don’t know them. I learn more about my sister’s from Facebook than from them talking to me. I rarely hear from my brothers.
Like any media platform social media can be used for good as well as bad. Good… reconnecting friends and family, sharing stories of hope and joy, sharing pictures, sharing motivational and inspirational stories and pictures. Bad… spreading rumours, spreading horrific videos, stalking, cyber bullying.
Here is a poem I wrote about social media one day when I was feeling very overwhelmed by it.
1,313 friends and followers
I feel so alone
Trying to remember
When was the last time
I had a real conversation
Words and pictures
What are you saying?
Can you hear me?
Are we communicating?
Are we real?
For it or against it, social media is a big part of people’s lives. Two important things I can say are,
1) use caution when you are sharing information, pictures and connections on social media
2) get out and speak to people face to face, have real conversations
Social Media Quotes
“Social media has given us this idea that we should all have a posse of friends when in reality, if we have one or two really good friends, we are lucky.” Brene Brown
“It's important for people to talk and get beyond the wall of Facebook and social media.” Billy Corgan
“These days. Most of us have the attention span of a meth-addicted squirrel.” Kirsten Lamb
“I know for a fact that I would be happier without social media in my life but I can't bring myself to delete it.” Unknown
I am a writer.